Be in a Relationship Without Losing Yourself
Relationships & ADHD Therapy for Women in Arizona & Massachusetts
In-Person Therapy in Phoenix & Scottsdale, AZ • Virtual Therapy in Boston & Cambridge, MA
Wanting a Relationship
You care deeply.
Your friends know it.
You want a real relationship.
You’ve read about “secure attachment” and “healthy communication,” you’re ready for a real relationship.
Wanting Space
One minute you’re open and connected, the next – you need space to breathe.
When you’re in a relationship your partner says they want to understand, and you want to let them in — but it can feel like too much.
You sense their overwhelm. You pull back.
Common Relationship Loops You Might be Struggling With
The Disappearing Act
You finally open up… and then instantly need space. Cue that disappearing text bubble.
Look your nervous system was not supported enough for that level of vulnerability. Therapy can Help.
Emotional Over-Functioning
You read the room, manage everyone’s moods, and call it “love.” You’re exceptionally trained in emotional logistics
This is a trauma pattern disguised as care. Let’s work on this.
Perfectionism in …Bed
Perfectionism takes you out of the moment, and out of your body.
This is not mismatched desire, this is perfectionism.
The Silent Spiral
One tiny comment (“Are you okay?”) and you’re suddenly replaying every moment of the relationship.
Rejection sensitivity makes intimacy hard.
The Fix-It Reflex
Your partner shares a feeling; you turn it into a to-do list.
You think you’re helping but sometimes they just want to be heard, not managed.
Hi I’m AJ!
Relationships are hard.
Therapy for ADHD and relationships helps you understand how your brain’s wiring, perfectionism, and sensitivity intersect with love, so you can build intimacy that feels safe and real.
You’re no longer replaying every conversation.
You can ask for space without fearing rejection.
You can enjoy closeness without needing to perform calm.
You can trust that love doesn’t have to mean over-functioning.
How We Will Work Together
As a therapist specializing in ADHD and relationship dynamics, I work with clients who are accomplished, thoughtful, and tired of repeating the same emotional loops.
Together, we will:
- Understand how ADHD and perfectionism shape your attachment style.
- Build skills for emotional regulation that don’t rely solely on your partner.
- Learn how to communicate needs and boundaries without guilt or fear.
- Explore how trust, safety, and desire can coexist — without performance or burnout